Monday, July 13, 2015

Tips to Find Your Inner Voice


Last time I talked about finding your "Big I" voice that is often lost among all the chatter of your "little I".

Today I offer you 3 Tips to explore, express and excel at finding your "Big I" voice.

(1)  Each week take a 1-2 hour time-out to explore and do something you have been wanting to do, such as visiting a museum, take up swimming, or signing up for a class outside of work.  This is something out of your regular routine.  If you keep doing what you are doing and expect something to change, it is foolishness.  So don’t be a fool and treat yourself to time-out. This treat pays off in dividends!

(2)  Make a list of what matters to you and why it is important (be it person, place or thing).   With each item notice what you feel and the importance it plays in your life.  Give thanks and appreciation for being in your life. Appreciation and love attracts more of it.

(3)  Look to see if you have any addictions.  Addictions come in many forms.  Examples of addiction might be:  watching TV/movies excessively, having success no matter what it takes, shopping just to shop, feeling like a victim, etc.  Addictions hold us in the vice of the small self.

As a bonus tip, I recommend the book “To Hell and Back”, a true story of Dr. Steve Heird who lived with the addiction of success and drugs.    Here was a man who had it all, but neglected the warnings.  You are meant to evolve from the inside out – not the other way around.

Remember: Anything is Possible!

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Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Find Your Inner “Big I” Voice Lost Among the “little I’s” Chatter


We all have inner voices directing us what to do and how to do it.  They are recordings of beliefs and perspectives we have developed throughout the years.   These recordings can be beneficial and others not so beneficial. Buried beneath these inner voices are other voices, I call the “Big I’s” of Self.  These are the jewels from which to choose and grab onto when you want to change from where you are to where you want to be. 

The “little I’s” of self usually are stuck in the status quo of the past.  They aren’t interested in taking risks.   Rather than change, even when circumstances are miserable or just getting by, people are strangely comfortable in the uncomfortable.  That’s because of familiarity with what to expect.  We are creatures of habit.

But life has a way of waking us up, even when we stubbornly adhere to unfavorable existing circumstances.  Something will happen to get your attention.  It may be a small bump on the head, like being overlooked for a promotion.  You complain while going about your business as usual.  

Then comes a bigger strike to the head, like getting fired, and you are forced to look for something new.   You are paying too much attention to the “little I’s” and remain oblivious to the signs until something forces change. 
  
The good news is doesn’t have to get to the point of losing something before you are ready to give it up.  The “Big I” voices have the answers.  They may be the voice of Potential, Explorer, Leader, Compassion, Talented, Non-judgmental, etc.  As you explore you will become acquainted with how the “little I’s” have become misguided thinking they are the Big I’s – the authentic Self. 

Just because you explore change, doesn’t mean you throw the baby out with the bath water, but it will give you more information to make a decision.  And quite often exploration will generate new viewpoints to see how and who you have to be to make your career and life better just right where you are.   

If we continue to play the same “little I” recordings without creating our future from the treasure chest of intuitive “Big I” voices buried beneath the “little I’s,”  we lose the opportunity to know the possibilities of our soul's destiny. 

He who refuses to embrace a unique opportunity loses the prize as surely  as if he had failed.—William James

Remember:  Anything is Possible

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Three Dream Blockers in Business & Career Development


Last time I talked about how dreams come alive in business and careers.  The following 3 activities are huge dream blockers when you are developing your career and/or business.

Complaints
Constantly complaining without taking steps to find a solution is a major factor in keeping dreams on hold. The complaints may be about working in an environment that is depressing, unfulfilling and going nowhere. Or maybe you are without income coming in right now and you believe you are powerless to find a new career. Whatever you focus on is recyclable. Keep complaining, rather than looking for a future to live into, and that negative energy keeps boomeranging until you decide to make a shift. Leaders seek solutions rather than wasting energy on complaining.

Identity Crisis
We have been trained to acknowledge certain professions better than others, especially with academic achievement and/or celebrity popularity. As we have seen in this economy, academic degrees don't guarantee a job or even an interview. When you get fixed on your career identity and assume that by changing professions you are lowering your standards is so far off base it keeps you locked in, thus limiting your self-expression and freedom. Leaders show up in all walks of life.

Limiting Perspectives - Judgments
Strange as it may seem, there are powerful false beliefs that run one's life. They originated mainly in childhood. During maturity the negative beliefs pretty much stayed immature and wounded. Their automatic response to change and trying out new possibilities is "watch out you may get hurt." Growing in self-awareness is taking a leadership position to learn new positive beliefs and practices. There are various modalities to gain insight and create the future you want. I work with my clients to create the bigger game they are meant to play and win big time!

So Remember: Anything Is Possible. If you need help removing these blocks from your life my 7 Steps to a New Career Direction Program can help - get information and register here - the next offering starts June 22, 2015.

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, magic, and power in it."  -- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Dreams Come Alive in Business & Career


"I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he had imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." -- Henry David Thoreau 


Dreams Come Alive in Business & Career:

There are basically three major blocks to realizing your dreams. These are blocks that are wired into your way of being. They have been with you a long, long time and are so automatic that you don't even notice them. Think of something that you do automatically without even thinking of the steps or process it took to actualize the event. Take driving for example.

If you are an automobile driver, remember when you first learned how to drive a car? All the nuances you had to learn from putting the key in the ignition; putting the car in the proper gear; learning which pedal was the brake and which was the pedal to accelerate; learning to gauge distances without hitting anything; how to parallel park; getting the oil changed regularly; and learning the rules of the road. These are a few of the pieces you had to put together to become a good driver. With practice you developed unconscious competence. Driving eventually became an automatic skill.

Actualizing desired dreams requires transcending from where you are to where you want to be. However, what often occurs is dreams get stuck in automatic limiting beliefs, feelings of anxiety, and unproductive behaviors. As much as you may want to improve or advance your situation, your automatic responses keep fighting against change filling your mind with fear, doubt, guilt and anxiety. These become self-fulfilling prophecies - and, ultimately, you lose. 

Next time I will share with you Three Dream Blockers in Business & Career Development. 


And remember: Anything is Possible!

Friday, June 5, 2015

Tips to Fire up the Path to Possibilities

Last time we talked about the creativity of organic leaders.  This time I offer you some Tips to Fire up the Path to Possibilities:

1.  Use needlepoint to free your mind from stress, routines, or trying to force an outcome when present resources fail to give you a solution. It is better to needlepoint repetitive patterns and use one color. This will help you to zone out and free your mind from preconceived ideas. What becomes available is a clean canvas where possibilities come alive. Needlepoint is not exclusive to women. The Boston Globe (1/31/02) reported that male knitters include Russell Crowe, Oscar Winning Actor; Ethan Zohn, winner of CBS Survivor: Africa; Bob Mackie, American fashion designer; and Stu Bloomberg, network TV producer.

2.  Mind map! A mind map is a diagram used to represent words, ideas, tasks, or other items linked to and arranged around a central key word or idea. It is a fun technique that closely resembles how your brain actually works, which helps you to better analyze, comprehend, synthesize, recall and generate new ideas. Its power lies in its simplicity. You will find more info on Tony Buzan's website. Tony is the inventor of mind mapping.

3.  To be an organic leader is to be proactive rather than reactive. Most people react and get hooked into other people's scenarios and drama. They unconsciously fall into agreements of what there is to like and not to like, who to like and who not to like and approval seeking. It is the collective unconscious wherein lies the opportunity to look at circumstances another way - another possibility. Be proactive in being the solution you are seeking.

Remember: Anything Is Possible.

"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure which is: Try to please everybody." - Herbert B. Swope (US editor and journalist, d. 1958)

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Thursday, May 28, 2015

Organic Leaders Are Creative


"Leadership can be thought of as a capacity to define oneself to others in a way that clarifies and expands a vision of the future." - Edwin H. Friedman 

One of the striking attributes of a successful leader is their uncanny ability to use their creative imagination to create possibilities.  Possibilities exist in the unconscious incompetence for they are non-existent in the external world, otherwise they would not be a possibility. There is incompetence associated with the unconscious-incompetence possibilities, because the possibility has not been tested! 

Leaders see possibilities outside of the norm. Their imagination sees the end in mind and from there he/she creates a vision or dream of the outcome. It is something they are passionate about and believe in personally or professionally. You take a leadership stance when you decide to investigate possibilities outside of what is normal for you. It could be competing in a marathon, taking innovative action to increase business, change careers, or even asking for what you want.

Leadership is available to everyone and so are possibilities regardless of where you are or what you do. You are born to lead organically. The organic leader is evolving from the true self and not the ego self. The organic leader steps into a future that is calling him/her. They are not satisfied with living life from the bleachers. They are active players who are willing to answer their call and transform. Are you playing your game on the field or settling to be a spectator? 
herself.

"The least questioned assumptions are often the most questionable" - Paul Broca

Next time I'll offer some Tips to Fire up the Path to Possibilities.  And remember: Anything is Possible!

Friday, May 22, 2015

Nothing Happens Until Something Moves


Have you ever tried to find a destination without a map? Like me, you probably realize how easy it is to get lost and off the path. Only when it's too late do we finally give in and turn around and admit we were never headed in the right direction to begin with.

The reality is, that instead of continuing to do something that is not working for us, we need to stop and simply try something different. However, it's hard to stop unless we know what the "core challenges" are that are blocking our progress.

We get caught in a rut from time to time and this is why we need to learn from others with different perspectives!  Here is one concept that can change your life for the better:

"Nothing Happens Until Something Moves."

Without getting into the laws of physics, the universal truth is that nothing ever happens until something first moves.

In the case of being overwhelmed by finances, relationships, health, well being, the economy, joblessness - no one is immune. But something can always be done and this is great news!

You have the power to alter your own reality. And you have that power right now. If you truly seek more out of your life, if you truly want to feel more abundance, more happiness, more control, less anxiety, and less stress...Then today is the day to move something!

And remember: Anything is Possible!